Today, I have a question for you:Do you think that being happy means that we can never be sad?
My personal answer to this question is no. Sadness and happiness are like Ying and Yang. You need one to appreciate the other.
Earlier this year, a very close friend here in China lost her dad. And her journey with him through weeks of sickness, from diagnosis to death, bought back my own journey with my dad. Twelve years ago, we went through eight weeks of hell when my dad was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Four surgeries later, in just 8 weeks, he was gone from our lives.
The sadness, the heartbreak that we experienced, is indescribable. It’s like the world has just ended. It’s when your tears can’t fall and you feel nothing. You can’t cry, you can’t hear, you can’t speak, you can’t see. You just are. And in that moment, your heart breaks.
With hindsight twelve years later, I am able to see how moving through that kind of indescribable sadness transforms a person. Having experienced that sadness really helps you appreciate life and appreciate happiness.
So today’s post is for all of you out there who have experienced sadness or are going through sadness now. And over the next three weeks we will look at sadness more in depth.
Our next blog shares with you things you can do to move through sadness. And remember, there is no alloted time for sadness and moving through it is always at your own speed.